This is a feeling many teens across the world experience, yet most of us struggle to talk about it openly. Loneliness doesn’t always look like sitting by yourself at lunch or having no one to text. Sometimes, it shows up even when you’re surrounded by people you care about. And strangely enough, being alone doesn’t always have to feel lonely. According to mental-health researchers, loneliness is more about how connected you feel, not about how many people are physically around you.

I’ve had moments where I was in a room full of friends but still felt like I couldn’t connect with anyone. That kind of loneliness can feel confusing because from the outside, everything seems fine. Inside, though, it feels like there’s a barrier you can’t explain – a sense that you’re not fully understood or seen. This type of emotional loneliness can slowly affect your mental health, creating feelings of sadness, insecurity, and sometimes even anxiety.

On the other hand, being alone can actually be peaceful when you choose it. I used to think that being by myself meant something was wrong with me, like I was “less social” or “less fun.” But as I’ve gotten older, I’ve realised alone time can be grounding. It gives your brain a chance to rest, reflect, and recover from the constant noise of school, social media, or friendships. Learning to enjoy your own company builds confidence and self-trust – two things that can protect your mental health long-term.

If you’re someone who often feels lonely, even when you’re not physically alone, you’re not strange or broken. I’ve felt that way too. One thing that helped me was trying to identify what kind of connection I was craving. Sometimes, it wasn’t about needing more friends – it was about wanting deeper conversations, more support, or simply someone who truly listens.
Reaching out to even one person you trust can make a huge difference.

In the end, loneliness is a signal, not a flaw. It’s your mind telling you that you deserve connection and understanding. And slowly learning to enjoy time alone can help you recognise your own worth, even before anyone else does.

Sabrina Kanli